To be more positive
It’s sounds simple, pleasant, and easy enough, but setting an arbitrary resolution to be “better” at something is too vague to yield actual results. “Emotions and responsiveness to life can vary from day to day, so what’s more positive one day could be totally different the next,” says Amber Hurdle, certified life coach who works with female entrepreneurs. “Instead, resolve to choose gratitude and happiness daily, focusing specifically on replacing negative habits and thoughts with positive ones.” Try reading motivational, personal, or professional development books, spiritual novels, listen to inspiring podcasts, or watch uplifting videos online to work your way out of a negative head space. Check out these other (specific) 14 New Year’s resolutions for your happiest year yet.
To spend more time with family
This is certainly a noble and amicable resolution for anyone, but there will likely be behaviors and obstacles getting in the way of your ability to see it through. “Having ‘more time’ to spend with loved ones unfortunately comes down to logistics and priorities, which are changing constantly as the time available in our schedule changes,” says life coach Jennifer Horton, MS. “So promising that you’ll miraculously have more time available to designate to your family come January 1 is not really fair to yourself or your loved ones.” Instead, take the time to assess and evaluate your life from an outside perspective. Based on how you spend your time, what is obviously important to you? Determine your true priorities—whether they match how you’re spending your time or not—and devise ways to devote time and attention to pursuing them. Delegate those time wasters that eat up valuable time, even if that means hiring people to take over tasks such as housekeeping and yard work that distract from your chosen priorities. Even an hour or two per week can dramatically add time to your schedule to focus on more important things.
To improve relationships with friends or family
Ultimately, improving your relationships improves your overall satisfaction in life, but simply stating that you want to improve your relationships leaves too many variables in the hands of others. The one thing you can control is how much forgiveness you show, because you aren’t hurting anyone but yourself by holding on to anger and resentment. “Sometimes it’s easier to forgive someone else than it is to (really) forgive yourself,” says Hurdle. “So set out to work on showing yourself grace for things like making a bad financial decision, entering into the wrong relationship, eating too much over the weekend, or whatever you beat yourself up over. Forgiving others—and yourself—paves the way for better relationships across the board. Here are 12 more New Year’s resolutions that will improve your relationship.