Quiet your inner critic
We all have one—the voice that says you failed, you made a mistake, you can’t do challenging things so don’t even try. Treating yourself with compassion means telling that voice to knock it off. “The harshness we have for ourselves, we all have in common,” says Nataly Kogan, the CEO and founder of Happier. “Start by learning to hear that voice in your head, how you talk to yourself. Then pause and reframe as if you were talking to a friend,” says Kogan, who created an online course to teach self-compassion. (Read 10 more ways to silence that negative voice in your head.)
Be your own advocate
Turn that critic into a motivator. Think about how you’d encourage a friend or loved one who needed some support or cheerleading. Now offer that kindness to yourself. Kristin Neff, PhD, is a psychologist who authored a book on self-compassion. She points out that when you’re nicer to yourself, you can see mistakes as learning opportunities. That gives you the strength and confidence to try new things (and try them again when you need to). Also try these tips to boost your self-confidence.