If you’re depressed, your baby will be too
When postpartum depression (PPD) sets in, it’s hard for a new mother not to think about the toll her emotional upheaval is having on her baby. One myth that new moms suffering from PPD often believe is that her baby is suffering too. Amber Cohn, MD, FACOG, told Reader’s Digest the truth, saying, “PPD cannot be passed on to baby, but baby can see some effects from it.” She continued, “Breastfeeding is often decreased in women who have PPD and bonding between mother and baby can also be decreased if the mother is suffering from PPD.” Dr. Cohn added that this symbiotic relationship between mother and child can work positively as well, adding, “When a mother receives treatment for PPD, it can have a positive influence on her and her baby.” Here are ten silent signs you could have postpartum depression.
You’ll love your baby at first sight
Mothers spend nine months imagining the first moment they hold their child. You might imagine an instant connection, an undying love and devotion toward this little being you’ve been waiting so long to meet face to face. When that doesn’t happen, new moms often panic and assume something is wrong with them—or even worse—that they’re a bad mother for it. Not true, says Nikki Echabarne, a postpartum doula on the central coast of California that focuses solely on helping new mothers navigate the fourth trimester. “Many times mothers don’t end up having the birth they had hoped for and so processing their experience clouds their feelings for their baby.” She advises new mothers to be gentle with themselves, saying, “Give it time. As you learn about this new little one, process the immensity of giving birth, and allow yourself to learn what it means to be a mother, the love will come all on its own.” Here are some more things no one tells you about giving birth.