Is this actually happening?
When a couple decides to try and conceive a child, they enter in to what can be a very emotionally charged time. If conception takes awhile, when a pregnancy actually happens, you can feel a bit of disbelief. Once the plus sign, the extra pink line appears or the word “pregnant” appears, you might be tempted to doubt the accuracy of the test. So you take 12 more tests just to be 100 percent sure. You have waited so long to see this result, that it can feel too good to be true, and you might even doubt your own eyes, asking yourself Is that even a line? It’s faint. IS THAT A LINE? The general answer to that question is that a line is a line. If you see a line, it’s there.
What were we thinking?
Right about the time that your brain registers that “yes, this is indeed happening” is when it might also decide to go straight into panic mode. Thoughts about much babies cry, cost, and affect your life all begin to flash through your mind-making it hard to remember why you even started down this path to begin with. Life with a tiny new roommate is different, but it’s worth it. It won’t make sense to you in this moment, but it will once you’re holding your little one. Life is going to change, and even when it’s for the better, change is hard. So take a deep breath and relax. These moments of panic and uncertainty don’t mean that you’re not cut out for parenthood, they mean that you’re normal. The fact that you’re worried about how you’re going to care for a child as a parent means that you’re going to be a good one. You’ve got this, and these feelings of panic will subside. Promise.
Don’t get too excited
Now that the panic has passed, and you’ve embraced this beautiful truth, that you are pregnant, you begin to feel the excitement that has been waiting at the sidelines for it’s turn in the game. It’s actually happening—this thing you’ve been waiting for. You’re going to be a mom, and you are so happy about it you could scream. It’s at this point that perhaps the little voice of fear might make itself known, reminding you about the small but real chance that something could go wrong. Although this is a valid concern, take comfort in the fact that every woman has this same concern, and chances are, your baby is going to be just fine. Make an appointment with your ob-gyn to help put your fears to rest and allow yourself to enjoy these early weeks of pregnancy. Let yourself to bask in the excitement that the very moment you’ve been dreaming of is here, and redirect all the energy you’re spending on fear into love for your growing little one.