Recognize sex is healthy for both of you
“If sex is becoming a chore, try to blot out the negatives and realize instead that your bedroom athletics have a lot of positive health benefits,” says Brett McCann, senior lecturer in sexual health at the University of Sydney in Australia. “Recent research shows sex lowers the frequency of fatal heart attacks, burns calories, and decreases breast cancer in men.” Other research has suggested that for young men, having frequent ejaculations decreases the risk of prostate cancer in later life, according to a study published in European Urology. Cleveland Clinic researchers found that people who have regular intercourse have better stress responses and lower blood pressure.
People who have more frequent sex may have higher levels of a type of infection-fighting antibody in their saliva compared those who have sex less frequently, according to a 2004 study of 112 college students in the journal Psychological Reports. Why? Possible theories include that sexually active people may have more immunity since they are exposed to more infectious agents than non-sexually active people.
Forget your flaws
If you want your sex life to be steamy, you need to love your body. Figure out what makes you feel sexy and beautiful, and make that happen. Whether you are a man or a woman, the key is to simply relax, have fun and make the other person feel special.