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15 Things a Body Image Coach Wishes You Knew

A top body image expert shares her top tips for learning to love your body

You’re not alone

Body image issues affect people of all types, shapes, ages, and sizes. Some of the best things to do to improve your body image have nothing to do with dieting or trying to change your body. Here are tips from a psychiatrist and coach to work on changing how you think and feel about your body. (Be sure to check out these quotes to remind you all bodies are beautiful, too.)

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Think of your body size like your shoe size

You don’t spend hours in front of the mirror pining to be the “perfect” size 7 shoe, so why give that treatment to the rest of your body? You shouldn’t, says Susan Albers, a clinical psychiatrist at the Cleveland Clinic and author of six books on mindful eating. “It can be a big leap to go straight from ‘I hate my body’ to ‘I love my body,’ so I tell my clients to work on acceptance, first. We accept our foot size and don’t try to change it, and we can do the same with our body,” she says. Try these 22 powerful ways to remind yourself how worthy you truly are.

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Have a love fest with your body

Just like there are parts of your body that you may not love, there are also parts you probably do. Remember and celebrate those parts of yourself. If you struggle to find something positive to feel about yourself, Dr. Albers suggests remembering the compliments you’ve received from family, friends, or strangers. “Think about the positive feedback you’ve gotten, such as ‘I love your hair,’ or ‘Your eyes are stunning,'” she says. Try these 10 easy ways to be nicer to yourself.

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Embrace the notion that everyone is different

Instead of comparing yourself to models or celebrities you follow on Instagram, switch your mindset and focus on how everyone is different and no person is better or worse than another. “Comparison is such a destructive bomb to self-esteem. Don’t think, ‘she’s better,’ ‘she’s skinnier,’ or ‘I’m fatter,'” says Dr. Albers. “Instead, focus your mind on how everyone is different and just because they may weigh less, it doesn’t mean they’re better than you.”

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Avoiding mirrors can be empowering

“Removing additional mirrors can be helpful in shifting your focus from how you look to how you feel,” says Dr. Albers. Check to be sure you’re stain- and wrinkle-free, then step out of frame. Here are science-backed tricks to boost confidence.

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Focusing on what makes you happy can actually make you happy

It can be hard to ignore your physical appearance—in fact, nearly 85 percent of women report opting out of social activities when they feel bad about how they look. But that’s a big mistake. When you’re feeling down about yourself, Dr. Albers suggests actively seeking out an activity that brings you joy. “When you’re doing something you love, whether it’s pottery or exercise or reading a good book, your focus on your appearance goes out the window, because you’re so in the moment and focusing on other things,” she says. Here’s how to develop a positive attitude.

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Invest in three fabulous outfits

We all have those mornings when it seems like nothing in the closet fits how we want it to that day. Stave off a permanent bad mood by stacking your wardrobe with a few outfits you always feel good in and that are really comfy. “Wear those when you’re having a day where you don’t feel good in anything,” says Dr. Albers.

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Stop looking at clothing sizes because they don’t matter

Whether you’re a size 2 or a size 12, constantly looking at clothing tag sizes can become a vicious cycle of self-hate—plus, each clothing brand fits differently, so one size won’t always fit all. “I recommend taking three different sizes into the fitting room and not looking at the size when you try them on,” says Dr. Albers. “Nobody sees the size, so focus on which pair of jeans you really feel comfortable in.” The more comfortable you feel in an outfit, the more confidently you’ll carry yourself and the better you’ll feel.

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Write yourself kind messages and leave them around

“Put notes of positive inspiration around to remind yourself to focus on the big picture, instead of obsessing over the little imperfections,” says Dr. Albers. Post sticky notes with positive affirmations like, “You look great today!” on the bathroom mirror, or pick up a tube of bright lipstick and scribble them right on the reflection. This is why you should start talking to yourself.

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Striking a power pose can boost your confidence

While some research seems to debunk the notion that a power pose (making your body more physically expansive) can enhance your life and confidence, Dr. Albers still believes it’s worth a shot—and it certainly won’t harm anything. “Practice poses of confidence,” she says. “People read a lot from your body posture.” Plus, a 54-study analysis says posture affects emotions and power posing is worth researching further. Try standing with your feet spread apart, back straight, chest out, and hands on your hips, before leaving the house.

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It’s OK to accept compliments, even if you don’t believe they’re true

“When we don’t feel good about ourselves, it’s natural to excuse people’s compliments or turn them down by talking negatively about ourselves in return,” says Dr. Albers. “Instead, be open to them and practice saying, ‘Thank you,’ even if you don’t believe them at that moment. The more you start taking compliments instead of shutting them down, the better you’ll feel in the long-run.”

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Use social media as inspiration

It can be all too easy to fall into the abyss that is #bodygoals on Instagram. To keep it positive, unfollow any accounts that constantly make you feel bad about yourself. “Only follow people who are positive and inspiring,” says Dr. Albers. “Scrolling through your phone and seeing only positive messages can really shift your mood.” Unfollowing people and profiles that don’t serve you is one way to have a healthier relationship with social media.

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Shame and guilt don’t sustain long-term motivation

“Those negative feelings might motivate you for a day, but what you end up doing is avoiding the things you feel bad about, so then you’re no longer making progress,” says Dr. Albers. If you do catch yourself talking down about yourself, follow it up with something positive. Try these morning mantras for a brighter, happier day.

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Put a positive spin on your desire to change

It’s perfectly fine to want to change things about your body. The key is to view those changes as positive instead of negative. That means instead of saying, “I need to lose weight, my thighs are so fat,” think to yourself, “I’m going to tone these thighs of mine. Focus on changing to be stronger, better, and healthier,” says Dr. Albers. Try these tricks to stop negative self-talk.

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Don’t go shopping unless you feel great

If you’re having a “bad hair day,” not even the excitement of a new outfit can make you feel good in it. Save your shopping spree for a day when you’re feeling your best, advise the experts.

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It’s OK to say “no”

“Part of building confidence is having good boundaries,” says Dr, Albers. “Practice saying ‘no’ to situations that you know will make you uncomfortable or unhappy. Eventually, it’ll just roll off the tongue,” says Dr. Albers. Try one of these 30 ways to boost your self-confidence instantly.

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Alyssa Jung
Alyssa Jung is a writer and editor with extensive experience creating health and wellness content that resonates with readers and performs well on social platforms. She freelanced for several local publications in Upstate New York and spent three years as a newspaper reporter before moving to New York City to pursue a career in magazines.She spent five years writing, editing, and fact-checking for Reader's Digest and rd.com before moving on to Rodale's Prevention magazine, where she is a Senior Associate Editor for print and a contributor to Prevention.com.